Why?
Why an Indian bride once married cannot call her paternal home as her own home in actuality?
Why are Indian ladies entitled to go back to their parents occasionally?
How can new relations in her life means End of old relations?
Why are rigid customs and rules in our society?
I understand and agree limitations are an important part of our system to whom we call Life. However, this is my strong belief that NO RELIGION AND IT’S RULES ARE MORE IMPORTANT THAN HUMANITY.
The filtered, unfiltered rules and regulations in various religions that hamper humanity are seriously left with no use.
So, here I am gonna narrate another real story which made me realise the “Pretendence of Living illogically”.
Logics may not be necessary to find for every of your illusions but imposed customs should make some sense.
Here was the lady, who had a clean heart and she usually thought less before speaking her life tales.
Most talkative and less worried about Life beyond the present.
She lived her life as it came to her.
She passed away last night. It was a big day for her daughter who got married yesterday only when she was taking her last breaths in the ICU.
I couldn’t make it to be a part of her big day due to some unavoidable reasons but her daughter and I shared a bond of friendship.
The one who is married is younger to me and she calls me aunt as her Mom is my distant cousin Sister.
My cousin sister who was twice my age was not financially good so all of us, their near and dear ones together helped them financially for her daughter’s marriage.
Though she saved money, she made very good arrangements for her daughter’s marriage in a prestigious Hotel. Of course every Mom has this dream of her daughter married like a princess.
Why not?
Her daughter has not been told yet about her mother’s demise as our elders think she has seen many struggles in her life and finally after a long awaited marriage happiness knocked at her door so they will hide this unfortunate news of her mother, which I think is wrong.
She was critically sick from the last 6 months having gallbladder removed due to innumerable stones. She got malignant cells covering almost all her body and thus cancer was detected at her last stage.
Life is seriously tough.
They really had so many struggles and bad times.
They don’t have a roof of their own and were living in a rented apartment.
And
When the time for her final rites came, her relatives didn’t take her body to her paternal home because in our religion it is believed “Once married a woman should only leave her in laws’ house when she is taken for her final rites”.
But
My question is:
What if there is no in-laws’ house?
And
Why?
Kids of the same mother who are brother and sister cannot share the same space for the final rites.
Why an Indian bride once married cannot call her paternal home as her own home in actuality?
Why are we considered as guests in our own paternal homes where we spent the Best of our years?
